Love & Humility

After three weeks of some pretty heavy texts, I was grateful for a break.

The passage about Jesus washing the feet of his disciples is a favorite of many people.

It raises themes of humility, anointing, and love.

So, let’s spend our time together this morning reflecting on those themes.

Jesus modeled a management style with his disciples that we now call servant leadership.

It turns traditional management on its head.

Instead of the manager dictating from above, they support their employees from below.

It prioritizes the needs of the team over the leader’s desire for power, control, and recognition.

This style is rare in this country because we are culturally conditioned to claim credit, so we get bonuses and promotions.

And the capitalist business model, at least as it traditionally practiced in the United States, is hierarchical and demands control.

As a culture, we have confused humility as submission and weakness.

But Jesus showed a way of living and leading that was very different.

He lived a humble life.

He lived in community with his followers, often addressing their needs before his own.

Jesus had great power—yet he voluntarily relinquished that power out of love for humanity and to serve our needs.

He is the epitome of humility.

Jesus also reminds us that our lives are a gift from God.

We are called to be stewards of that gift.

We can choose to live our lives in service of self or in service to the community.

Now, I don’t want to oversimplify.

It’s not that black and white.

It’s not that we can only serve ourselves or we can only serve the community.

We can serve both to varying degrees.

And some would argue that service to self is self-care and is necessary for us to effectively serve the community.

There’s also service to subsets of the community—like family and friends.

The point is where do we set our priorities?

Is it service to ourselves or service to others?

Are we concerned with money and power?

Or are we concerned with the common good?

Are our goals aligned with the common good or opposed to it?

I believe that learning to focus on the needs of the community develops out of humility.

The humility of knowing we exist because of the grace of God.

And knowing that none of us can exist on our own.

We are all interdependent.

The individualism that we Americans attribute to our “frontier spirit” obscures our dependence on one another.

Richard Rohr, a Franciscan priest and author, talks about his belief that individualism is rooted in false pride.

He said, “All the truly great persons I have ever met are characterized by what I would call radical humility and gratitude.

They are deeply convinced that they are drawing from another source; they are instruments.

Their genius is not their own; it is borrowed.

We are moons, not suns, except in our ability to pass on the light.

Our life is not our own; yet, at some level, enlightened people know that their life has been given to them as a sacred trust.”

I’m going to say part of that quote again because I think it’s both beautiful and important.

We are moons, not suns, except in our ability to pass on the light.

Like the moon reflecting the sun’s light, we reflect God’s love into the world.

But the light of Christ, which exists within us, that is ours to share.

And today’s second lesson reminds us that “Light produces every kind of goodness, justice and truth.”

Today’s first lesson talks about the anointing of David.

By that anointing, a simple shepherd boy was consecrated to become the king of Israel.

In John’s gospel, Lazarus’ sister, Mary, anoints Jesus’ feet with oil.

Then, in an act of love and humility, she dries them with her hair.

Jesus says her anointing of his feet was in preparation for his burial.

As in the first lesson, it was also a consecration.

A simple rabbi of humble beginnings was consecrated as the Messiah.

A few days later, Jesus echoes Mary’s action by washing his disciples’ feet.

It was also an act of love and humility.

The Son of God knelt before flawed human beings and washed their feet.

He set aside his power as the Messiah and modeled servant leadership for them.

This too was a consecration of sorts.

Jesus took simple human beings—farmers, fishermen, and a tax collector—and ordained them as his agents on earth.

But more than anything else, Jesus’ washing his disciples’ feet was about love.

He loved these friends who he had been traveling around the countryside with for three years.

He loved without exception.

He loved the tax collector AND the fishermen.

He loved the people who came to hear him preach and the people who came to be healed.

He loved scholars of Torah and people who couldn’t even read.

And he loved without measure.

He even washed the feet of the one who would betray him as well as the one who would deny him.

And, after he washed the feet of his disciples, he gave them another commandment—a new commandment.

He said, “Love one another.

And you’re to love one another the way I have loved you.

This is how all will know that you’re my disciples: that you truly love one another.”

Love one another the way I have loved you.

Without exception.

And without measure.

That is the challenge we are face with as Christians.

Will everyone know that we are followers of Jesus because we truly love one another?

Will we love without exception?

Will we love our black and brown neighbors?

Will we love our queer neighbors?

Will we love our homeless neighbors?

Will we love our immigrant neighbors?

Will we follow Jesus’ loving example and not only love but also accept love from others?

Will we follow Jesus’ loving example and put others’ needs before our own?

Will we accept help as well as give it?

Because accepting help is a form of humility.

It says that you understand that you are not an island.

It says that you are part of a community, and you understand that, within a community, people depend on one another.

Every day, in the news, we are faced with examples of behavior devoid of humility.

People who equate humility with weakness.

When I worked for Family Promise, I assumed that families living week-to-week in motels needed permanent housing.

I was good-intentioned but arrogant.

My pride and my ignorance, born out of never having been homeless, led me to draw conclusions I wasn’t in a position to draw.

When I sat down and talked to some of those families, I learned that some did want permanent housing, but others did not.

Those that did not said that their expenses in a motel were consistent.

There was never an unexpected plumber bill.

There was never an astronomically high utility bill.

They knew what they had to pay every week.

It never changed and they could plan around that.

I didn’t make that mistake again.

Going forward, I admitted when I didn’t have enough information to form an opinion.

I realized that my privilege and my lack of lived experience as a person experiencing homelessness meant that I had to seek guidance from people without my privilege and who had lived experience of homelessness.

It was a position that felt vulnerable.

I was the Executive Director of a nonprofit serving families experiencing homelessness and I had to admit there were things about housing insecurity that I just didn’t know—in fact, couldn’t know.

I understand now that that vulnerability came from the cultural conditioning that equated humility with weakness.

We are also faced with acts of violence and cruelty that show a lack of love for God and neighbor.

But then there are people like Chef José Andrés.

I don’t know if Chef Andrés is a Christian, but he epitomizes Christian values.

He believes that food is a fundamental human right and that we all bear the responsibility to feed people who are hungry.

He founded the World Central Kitchen (WCK), which has provided millions of meals to people in need.

They mobilize to feed people in disaster areas and war zones.

They’ve worked in Haiti and Gaza and other places in turmoil where people are suffering from a lack of nutrition.

Whether or not he is a Christian, he is following Jesus’ example because everyone knows that he demonstrates that he truly loves other human beings—without exception.

I’d like to close with another quote from Richard Rohr.

“We are God’s work of art, created in Christ Jesus.

All we can do is be what God’s Spirit makes us to be, and be thankful to God for the riches God has bestowed on us.

Humility, gratitude, and loving service to others are probably the most appropriate responses we can make”.

Humility, gratitude, and loving service are the most appropriate responses we can make.

Humility like Mary anointing Jesus’s feet and Jesus washing his disciples’ feet.

Humility like admitting that you can’t know everything or do everything.

And gratitude for the life God has entrusted to us, for the gift of interdependent community, and for the unconditional grace that God showers on us.

And loving service that places the needs of others before us.

Loving service like a chef who uses his fame and his wealth to feed people in need.

God has blessed us with many gifts but perhaps the most important is our capacity to love.

May you share that gift with everyone you encounter—without exception and without limits.

Just as Jesus did and just as he told us to do.

May this meditation on God’s word keep our hearts and minds on Christ Jesus. Amen